Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

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I receive 1000s of emails from my fans requesting interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How do I know if she (normally a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

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As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for the first and before despite my misgivings.

I used to be recently reminded of the controversial topic (and I’ll cover exactly why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction when I sat next to a very pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer sort of girl.

In our conversation, she made many of the verbal indicators of interest that I’ve heard previously and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and so to the likes individuals and I).

This is admittedly a rarer form of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and one in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

Here is a list of a few of the things these girls will consciously do to be able to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the reality is other women from African American to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

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Maybe you’ve seen this kind – they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or placed on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) but they really only know how to obtain pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because every woman wants to be cultured. You, like a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s a good example for you Chinese speakers.

First, act grave and say something like, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches in my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?”

And you’ll say (in the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of your phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I enjoy your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Continue but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded inside a learning experience.

Girls who may have had the pleasure of this situation tell me it’s unique then one they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your native language!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

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Her best friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived across the street from a Vietanemse family. Even when they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they’ve some sort of Asian acceptance to make her seem more receptive. They’ll make use of the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born into the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are wanting to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was unveiled in the idea of dating Asian men with a Korean acquaintance]

3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients is really a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a pretty famous action director and actor. He’s written in my experience on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies that follow him and the people in his circuit – a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Many of the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!

4. She Loves Asian Food: Be it sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she’s an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that appeals to all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own Korean BBQ, and the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and even arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food similar to this is sensual…just like sex. How you can a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It relates to beautiful women too.

5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You need to do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her really wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy – don’t take this as generalizing, she’s just wanting to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Start with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around in the sand kissing. Use her desire to your advantage.

6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s as much as her. If she’s referring to how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s trying to relate to you. The latter kind of woman wants to impress you together with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in which you say something towards the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her

7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and flicks – this kind of girl is infatuated with the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. And even Chinese for that matter. I’m not saying it won’t happen, but I can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I simply don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply will not have anything less than a BIG BANG boyfriend (quite simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).

8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Be it your eyes, Asian hair, or skin tone, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm as much as hers, or if you feel more at ease or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to point out the contrasting tones. Intangible things like intelligence, family, work ethic, second language are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (in the event you tell a girl she looks sexy for the reason that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as i was little boys, we all do melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments such as education or that understanding of a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.

9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the very beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they might be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to keep emotionally detached, but take into account that, by the end of this or any conversation you have with a female thinking about you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping together with her.

10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men in general and you in specific. Count on me, anytime a girl has ever explained she had an Asian boyfriend before, I will pretty much romantically connect to her 99.9999% of the time. So a white girl like that will say that she’s got dated an Asian man before. She’s going to make this point and also further – she’ll try to guess your ethnicity to demonstrate that she’s “learned in the methods for Asian men” and can prove that “not everyone look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to produce her seem more appealing and receptive in my experience. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your decision to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.

While having, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically create a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits and even all of them together and, gentlemen, you just might find yourself conversing with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!


I mentioned previously which i was always reluctant to answer this question. Yes, it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give which says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

So just why haven’t I answered it until now? Unfortunately, the act of wondering means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. The thing is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve always been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the response to that question. I believe that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How may i tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. Quite simply, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or maybe your money back proposition.

Plus today’s modern world with modern women, the worst thing dating is, is risk-free.

Meaning instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who’d then naturally attract these women whether white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to get the beautiful woman, he instead becomes the Asian beta male who’s only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, and a leader.

I hope, however, I am not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to appear, and ONLY look, of these specific female signals of attraction first prior to making a move… Instead of creating a move first after which making her drawn to you which she then supplies you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh the right path into her heart (then her pants)!

As you can tell, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not an excellent looking or handsome guy. Every woman I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those kind of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women has been documented and faithfully captured by the media around the world.

Instead, begin using these signals and indicators of curiosity to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and gotten to know her. You need to take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs that you should STAY when you’re already in the conversation with her instead of viewing them as indicators so that you can initially approach her.

In the end, what I’ve discovered with females that specifically they enjoy Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll want to be there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not really a girl YOU chose, that is a gross difference.

And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m likely to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above signals because she’s only attracted to your “Asianness”, but not for that reasons that you might think.

If you haven’t had the chance to get to know yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later – after all, you’re here to learn grab, and quitting the game early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you’ve yet to meet.